How to know that we have an orgasm?

How to know that we have an orgasm?

For all those who have already had fun (the pun was easy!) To have an orgasm, you know how sweet and pleasant it feels like no other.

All women are different – some have orgasms very quickly, in less than 5 minutes, while others need long and gentle preliminaries to be sufficiently in the mood and enjoy.

On the other hand, when a woman has an orgasm, she feels a pleasure so intense that her mind and her whole body are transported and this allows her to reach the fullest fullness.

That said, all this is rather vague, especially when we have never had an orgasm (or that we do not have every time we make love) and we would like a little more details to recognize the beginning of this wave of pleasure and better understand how to achieve orgasm more easily.

So if you’ve ever wondered what exactly happens when a woman is about to reach orgasm, here’s all that’s going on in a woman’s body when she’s about to enjoy:


When a woman starts to get excited, her heart starts beating faster and her breathing quickens. Many muscles are stretched all over his body. Her clitoris swells.

Her breasts are also a little swollen and her nipples become harder, bigger and point forward. It is the reflex erection of the nipple that can occur when one is cold or following sexual arousal. Having breasts that point when you make love is usually a very good sign and is perfectly normal!

Some women also have the face, the shot or the chest that starts to blush when they are excited.

All these signs can help you to detect that you are excited and that your body begins to prepare to enjoy.


Then, still under the effect of sexual arousal, the vagina begins to secrete a particular substance, very liquid and very transparent, called the love juice.

This is intended to lubricate the entrance and the walls of the vagina to promote penetration and movement of the penis. This natural lubrication is very important so that the sexual act is pleasant and that one can enjoy.

If you are very wet, this is still a good sign, and it is a priori that you are very excited and therefore in good shape to have an orgasm.

On the other hand, if you feel excited but you are very dry, do not worry, because the reciprocal is not always true: it is not because you are not wet that you are not excited because many factors can change the texture, color or even the smell of the cyprine (pill, menstrual cycle, diet, infection) besides the drop in estrogen levels during pregnancy, breastfeeding or menopause can also cause a lack of vaginal lubrication.

In this case, if you really want to make love, do not deprive yourself, and just use a lubricant that will make the foreplay and the sexual act itself much more enjoyable.

Even if natural lubrication is always preferred (since it is precisely natural and allows a priori to listen and make fun), use a lubricant should not interfere.

Indeed, it would be a bad idea to insist on having sex if you are not wet (because clearly, when it’s too dry, it hurts) and it would be a shame to deprive you of having sex. love because you feel like it but your vagina is not lubricated enough just because of one of the external parameters we mentioned above.


Because it seems logical, but it’s still important to remember: to have an orgasm, you must first make love (alone or with two, since it can also be fun alone).

It means not to be discouraged if you feel like it and feel mentally excited but our body has a hard time letting go. It is necessary to let go, relax and try to put his brain in a pause so that our body has time to feel all this excitement.

To summarize, if you want to have an orgasm, start by putting your anxieties aside, do not think about what you have to do next and let yourself go.

Try to fully feel each caress, every kiss and all that can happen in your body.

You will see that it is particularly pleasant and that even if we all like having an orgasm, we are very numerous to prefer the phase of preliminary and all that one can have between the two!

In addition, if you think too much, you will not live in the present moment, and you may have less pleasure. That would be a shame!


This is called pelvic engorgement, which increases with the approach of orgasm. It is this influx of blood in the vagina and vulva that will then release five to fifteen involuntary rhythmic contractions of the uterus or vagina during orgasm.

From the preliminaries, an excited woman has blood flow in her pelvic area which creates a very pleasant feeling of warmth at this place (you can see what I’m talking about!).

The lips are straightening and opening. Inside, the vagina lengthens and widens, always under the effect of this blood flow, to prepare for what will follow.


As the excitation phase continues, everything becomes even more dilated, wide and/or swollen and all the changes just enumerated are even more pronounced.

The only exception is the clitoris, which retracts when the orgasm approaches (usually just before) and its size decreases by 50%.


When a woman reaches orgasm, the heartbeat and breathing speed up, her whole body is arched, her skin blushes and intense contractions of the vagina, uterus and perineal muscles that can then spread throughout the body.

These intense contractions are of the order of one every two to three seconds. An average orgasm usually contains three to five contractions, and the most intense orgasms have between ten and fifteen. The female orgasm can vary from 10 to 60 seconds (while the male orgasm, meanwhile, varies from 6 to 10 seconds on average).

Just after these discharges of well-being that seem to invade the whole body, one feels filled and soothed. All the tension of the body is evacuated. We had an orgasm!

And if you want to sleep right after making love, it’s totally normal. As for men, the orgasm of women is accompanied by the production of oxytocin, one of the hormones of orgasm, and one of his many actions is to relax the body and make you want to sleep.

So if you feel like falling asleep after orgasm, especially, let yourself go: after all, there is nothing more pleasant than falling asleep in the arms of the loved one.


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